7 pound Baby

Remember the movie 7 pounds with Will Smith. The movie where he accidentally kills seven people while driving a car. At the end of the movie he donates his body parts to several different individuals. In the end Rosario Dawson sees Woody Harrelson and looks into his eyes and sees Will Smith. I always think about that movie when I look into my daughter's eyes. Its funny because she has her dad's eyes. When I took genetics class in college my professor said that offspring (children) do not get a mixture of genes. I mean if one parent has blue hair and the other parent has red hair your child will not have purple hair. The child will either have blue hair or red hair. Children inherit features from both parents either good or bad. Hopefully if your lucky your children will inherit the best qualities that you and your spouse have to offer. Through life's hardships you and your spouse can grow apart or grow closer to one another. You can begin to despise that person or you can become closer and love that person more than you ever loved him or her before. Either way how parents treat each other in life definitely affects children. Sometimes a person who you once would die for becomes the person you actually want to kill. You say so many hurtful things to one another that your words become bullets and your mouth becomes a shotgun. But then you see you kids. You see them cry. You see them laugh. You notice that they have your nose. They have his bony legs. You remember that time how silly he looked in swim trunks when you went to the Bahamas that summer and how he made you laugh. You touch your daughters hair and feel the softness and think about how her hair use to fall in her eyes and you would move it from her face. How her hair smelled of vanilla. Sometimes dwelling too much in the past or too much in the present prevents you from appreciating what is staring you right in the face. Sometimes looking in your children's eyes, smelling their hair, and making them laugh is what the future holds. Forgetting how they hurt you , remembering how they loved, and not imagining you life without them is what being a family is about. And those are the best qualities you have to offer.