Divorce, is hard on children. Our spouses drive us crazy, and I suppose we do the same. It begins with seperate beds, and ends with seperate holidays, homes, and families. When your ready to finally leave you spouse, he or she has probably driven you to a point of no return. When all you can think of is getting away as fast as you can from the person who once was considered your significant other you forget about the children. But in the midst of hurting eachother, the real people who end up hurt are the kids.
Yesterday, I spent the day planning a birthday party for my ex-nephew. I got balloons, cake, ice cream, decorations, pizza, the entire cha-bang. We played with the pinata, his dad came, his grandfather, my kids, and my ex-husband. I tried to make it the best party I could, but my ex-husband surprised me by reminding me of the one person who was not there, my ex-nephew's mom. When did a mom become blackballed from the VIP list. In my journey to plan the perfect party, the main ingredient was missing, his mom. It wasn't because I didn't want her there, or because he didn't want her there. But divorce calls for seperate holidays, homes, families, and even birthdays.
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In my book, and how we run my divorced household is...once married and a family always family. My ex-husband spends EVERY holdiay with me and our son. My ex greets me with a "Hey Babe" and a kiss on the cheek. We teach our son that we love him and each other. We do family outings with our son and everything...We try very hard to be as "normal" as possible.
ReplyDeleteI think that is great. The number of divorced couples is on the high. Even though we don't get along with our spouses, does not mean that the family is done, because husband and wife are done. We have to put the children first. That what a good mother and father does. You definitely a Prima Donna Momma Kelly!
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