Thursday, February 25, 2010
Looking in the Mirror
Today, I spent 10 minutes attempting to convince my son why he should go to school when he believes no one in his class likes him. Of course I joke around, and tell him he is the coolest kid at the school, plus he has the coolest mom, "what's the problem. " But regrettingly. I push him out the door promising to visit him during lunch time, and bring a popsicle bribe to school praying that this will help my son get some friends. Before I so effortlessly threw him in the trenches, he told me how kids called his birthmark nasty, and said they don't want to play with him, and call him weird, and other names. I reminisce back to my own childhood, no friends, doing pantomime doing recess, and pretty much making cut outs with my sandwiches in the shape of people to talk to. As you can see the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree, but what can you do. What can a reformed weirdo, turned diva tell her seven year old son about the harsh world of school bullying? How can I help my son fit in? Or maybe he just wasn't meant to fit? I love my baby I love his weirdness. I know there is a pre-adolescent band camp somewhere I can enlist my son, so he is around people who appreciate his corkiness, and his need to faint when he doesn't get his way. I guess what I 'm trying to say is sometimes, and parents we spend days trying to fit into what others ideal for the typical mom is, or employee, or church member, but what we need to do is be ourselves. Embrace your flaws, and teach you kids how to love themselves for who they are.
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It is so very important to teach the children to be themselves, love every one of their God given beauties and talents, and accept what was given to them by our Father. It is also important to note that most of the kids who are doing the bullying are most times those that are troubled at home and in life and this is a way to release those frustrations, burdens, and pains at home. Your child is well rounded and bright. This will only make your child stronger. Put him in Karate and tell him to let those jerks know he is working on a black belt! Go for it diva mom! D.B. in california
ReplyDeleteWho is making fun of my God-Son!? Tell him his God-Mother was a weirdo too...or that chick they told "she thinks she is cute"...It took me to college to embrace those haters. If you've got time to think that I think I'm cute than baby, I must be important! You tell him his God-Mother Loves him and being weird is WAY better than being plain. God loves us all, just the way he made us. Tell him he will turn out just as outrageous as his Mother and God-Mother....and all those other kids will wish they were him! MUAH!
ReplyDeleteOkay, so the popsicles did work. I let Dedan pass them out during lunch, and the students loved them. We even had some left over to pass out to the cafeteria workers and the school principals. While Dedan was spending his time passing out popsicles, I was doing the PR work. I showed some of his classmates my birthmark, and how it made me special, because no one else has the same birthmark, as me. Plus I told them that me and Dedan have a special relationship, because we both have a birthmark on our face. One of the kids began to share how they were born with a birthmark, but it went away. When I picked Dedan up from school he was happy as can be, and told me he had the best day. My job is done, the Diva won!
ReplyDeleteThe title's of each of your posts, including this one are Pulitzer-prize winning girlie! Did you major in Communications? Coming up with an attention-grabbing title takes me more time than actually writing the post. Any suggestions on how you do this for yours?
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